“I must be a mermaid. I have no fear of depths and a great fear of shallow living.” ~ Anais Nin
This quote burns in me since I first read it on my 41st birthday.
That was the year as a midlife woman that I felt the undeniable call of my soul’s desire. That I felt the undeniable need to live with Intention, which meant casting aside so many things I’d been tolerating that were keeping me from becoming the woman I wanted to be.
If you find yourself feeling this same sense of urgency, get ready to start your own [R]evolution™ by jettisoning these 17 things from your life. How many of them are you currently tolerating?
1. Anything with the word “should” in it.
2. Negative disclaimers or reducers – things that make you feel small: “guilty” pleasure, “I just think that…” “Sorry to bother you…”
3. Anything that comes after the word “but” because what you really think is at the end of that three-letter word and it negates everything that came before.
4. “If only“s. If only “X” would happen, then you could do “Y.” Despite what you learned in school, life isn’t linear like some mathematical equation. Stand around long enough waiting for everything to fall into perfect alignment before you do anything is a surefire way to miss out on your dreams.
5. Anything with the negative voice of a parent, a friend, a teacher from your past, a boss, a spouse or partner who says you can’t do the very thing your soul is crying out to do.
6. The Inner Critic who will never – and I mean never – give you permission. She will thwart, undermine and sabotage you at every turn. She’s got to go (or at least buy her a muzzle).
7. Expectations. Others. Your own.
8. Guilt, shame, rationalizations that what you want is somehow selfish and therefore not worthy of a place of honor at the head of the table. It’s your life. You’re driving the bus (or maybe it’s a minivan). It’s okay – no, it’s mandatory – that you be SELFish and put your needs and wants at the top of your list. If you don’t, who will?
9. Old, outdated stories that stick to you like surgeon’s glue, that hold you fast to places, people and beliefs that no longer belong to you.
10. Please and mother-may-I, permission, restriction.
11. The armor you use to protect yourself that keeps you weighed down (work, food, people-pleasing, denial, alcohol, procrastination, cynicism).
12. The “not enoughness.” I’m here to tell you (with arms and heart wide open) that YOU. ARE. ENOUGH.
13. Fear. “We stopped checking for monsters under the bed when we realized they were inside us.” Become more loyal to your dreams than your fears.
14. Anything, or anyone, that chips away (or uses a jackhammer) at your self-respect, self-esteem, your soul’s desire.
15. The lies you tell yourself each and every day: “Everything is fine.” “I’m too busy to do something for myself right now.” “I’m too old to start over.”
16. Living a mediocre life.
17. Living someone else’s life.
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Please share in the comments section how you reacted to this list. Does any or all of it sound familiar? Too familiar? What one thing can you let go of today to start your own [R]evolution™?
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